compare

my personal opinion is that people should not compare themselves, be it to each other, be it by others, be it trying to put yourself in others shoes. i don't think it is a healthy way to live, nor do i think any good can come of it. we are not each other, we don't think, process, or behave like each other, we are not made the same, we are unique, we are individuals who need each other in relationship but we are not to compare. i can't possibly understand your situation and the pain or joys you feel, the struggles or laughs you have, the way in which you interact with others for i am not you. i have my own set of struggles, my own unique situations that bring me joys, i am my own person, as you are yours. but i do need you. i need you for relationship. i need you for growth. i need you for love. so i am not comparing, trying not to compare, as it is hard especially with two young children and only the two for reference. i try not to make sentences that involve words such as..."well at this age sophie..." "sophie was more like..." and so on. but i admit it is hard. i so want these girls to grow up to be individuals who aspire to be all that they can and admire each other for the traits each other possess, as friends, as people who need each other and love each other, but are not compared to each other. such a thing will only tear them apart. these are our girls at the same age in the same clothes doing the same thing...each unique, each a sister, each beautiful.

penelope anne - january 2009

sophie rayne - april 2007

sophie rayne - april 2007

penelope anne - january 2009